What to expect long term with your child’s OCD?
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a chronic condition. While a person can never truly say that they have fully rid themselves of OCD, it is possible to manage it in such a way that it no longer interferes with one’s day-to-day life the way it might have prior to receiving treatment.
If your child has been diagnosed with OCD, you might be familiar with patterns of rigidity, such as repeating behaviors in a strict order to temporarily alleviate the anxiety and torment that comes from the interfering, intrusive obsessions. For example, your child might have a particular way of arranging her bed covers to make sure that family members will be safe during the night and will all wake up healthy in the morning.
As your child grows up, it is likely that the underlying need to “make sure” things are a certain way continues to be there in subtle ways. Your child might no longer have the same preoccupation with her bed covers as the themes shift. However, the underlying intolerance of uncertainty is what persists most in OCD, manifesting in themes that might have nothing to do (at least on the surface) with what you have seen in the past.
It is not uncommon for OCD to interfere somewhat with a young adult’s ability to mature into an independent individual. Very often, adults with OCD are dependent upon other adults in their lives to get reassurance regarding their feared obsessions. This pattern of overreliance, if not handled properly, can take over.Get effective therapy for your OCD
Parents of children with OCD might have been prone early on to make accommodations for their struggling children. This pattern can get out of hand, as the child grows into a teen and later on a young adult, and naturally has to deal with more responsibilities.
While it is important not to make accommodations for them even while they are children, it becomes even more vital not to give in to that temptation now that they have more on their plate, as that situation can easily become highly unpleasant.
To illustrate, I started working with a woman in her thirties who relied heavily on her elderly mother for every single one of her needs other than entertainment. The woman would not typically leave the apartment and would often dedicate the entirety of her waking hours to doing her compulsions and rituals on bad days, and on good days she would leave a few hours for online streaming of shows.
When I was made aware of the household dynamics, I put ERP on hold for a brief time, to make sure that both mother and daughter were educated about the implications of their lifestyle and the importance of gradually ceasing accommodations. Despite their openness to this educational material, and their best intentions, change was difficult and extended over time.Get effective therapy for your OCD
This is not a representation of the majority of young adults who live with OCD, but rather an illustration as to where continued accommodations could potentially lead. In fact, if your child has been diagnosed with OCD at an early age, you have probably had to confront accommodation dynamics at some point and are likely not in the same situation as the example above.
It is important to have realistic expectations about OCD. We can’t expect a person who has been diagnosed with this disorder to no longer have intrusive obsessions. But they can live free of the torment of doing repetitive behaviors or mental acts to assuage their fears. As the parent of someone diagnosed with OCD, you can help them be aware of what realistic expectations are, and celebrate their victories in their life-long journey to recovery.
Teda is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP) currently specializing in using ERP to treat various presentations of OCD. Teda has been working in the mental health field for over 4 years, getting her early experience in the inpatient psychiatric setting, then moving on to community mental health, and currently doing telehealth with OCD.
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Taylor Newendorp
Licensed Therapist, MA
I started as a therapist over 14 years ago, working in different mental health environments. Many people with OCD that weren't being treated for it crossed my path and weren't getting better. I decided that I wanted to help people with OCD, so I became an OCD therapist, and eventually, a clinical supervisor. I treated people using Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) and saw people get better day in and day out. I continue to use ERP because nothing is more effective in treating OCD.
Madina Alam
Licensed Therapist, LCMHC
When I started treating OCD, I quickly realized how much this type of work means to me because I had to learn how to be okay with discomfort and uncertainty myself. I’ve been practicing as a licensed therapist since 2016. My graduate work is in mental health counseling, and I use Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy because it’s the gold standard of OCD treatment.
Tamara Harrison
Licensed Therapist, MA
I have personally struggled with OCD and know what it's like to feel controlled by intrusive thoughts and compulsions, and to also overcome it using the proper therapy. I’ve been a licensed therapist since 2017. I have an M.A. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, and practice Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy. I know by experience how effective ERP is in treating OCD symptoms.
