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If I like lolicon, does it mean I’m a pedophile? A therapist’s view

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April Kilduff (April Kilduff, MA, LCPC)

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In recent years, anime and cosplay have seen a surge in popularity, bringing various sub-genres and themes that may challenge societal norms. Several sub-genres spark discussions about taboo fantasies and desires, including one known as “lolicon.” 

As a kink-informed therapist with years of experience treating Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), I’ve helped people who worry about what their enjoyment of lolicon says about them, and I believe it’s crucial to approach the topic with sensitivity, empathy, and a comprehensive understanding. In this article, we’ll delve into the complexities and challenges of lolicon, ego-dystonic thoughts, and the importance of distinguishing fantasy from action. But first, let’s begin with a bit of background.

What is lolicon? 

The lolicon genre emerged in Japan during the 1970s, inspired by the works of artists like Hideo Azuma and Ken Akamatsu. It features sexually suggestive or explicit content depicting fictional, childlike characters, often in manga, anime, or related media. Its origins lie in a complex interplay of cultural, artistic, and social factors within Japan’s broader manga and anime landscape. The term is a Japanese contraction of “Lolita complex,” which warrants a little unpacking.  

Lolita is the nickname that Humbert Humbert—the middle-aged narrator in Vladimir Nabokov’s 1955 novel “Lolita”—bestows upon a 12-year-old girl he becomes infatuated with. The critically acclaimed book explores themes of obsession, manipulation, and the blurred lines between love and exploitation.

“Lolita Complex”—written by American author Russell Trainer in 1966 and translated into Japanese in 1969—is a pop psychology book in which the author uses the term as a shorthand to describe adult male attraction to underage girls. (“Shotacon” is a related genre that features sexually suggestive depictions of young male characters. Like lolicon, it’s a contraction of “Shōtarō”—a character in the 1956 manga comic Tetsujin 28-gō—and “complex.” All of the issues we’re about to discuss around lolicon can equally be applied to shotacon.)   

Understanding OCD

It’s essential to recognize that within the realm of fantasy, people can explore desires that may be socially and morally unacceptable in real life. It’s a big part of why fantasies exist. 

For instance, it’s common for people to engage in fantasies involving taboo subjects like incest or rape. However, indulging in these thoughts does not equate to an intention to ever act upon them, or even desire them in real life. It’s crucial to emphasize that fantasy remains distinct from action, or even from other kinds of desire. 

That brings us, rather neatly, to OCD—a mental health condition that can cause a lot of distress and anxiety about the line between thought and intent. This blurring typically occurs in the wake of an intrusive thought, urge, feeling, worry, or image. Everyone has them, and the majority of people can shrug off these intrusive thoughts for the meaningless mental glitches they are. People with OCD, however, cannot dismiss these thoughts, which are especially persistent and distressing, and become obsessions

For example, a person who doesn’t have OCD might have a random thought when watching a movie: “I hope I don’t feel attracted to that child actor,” and they can quickly shake it off and then go about their day. Someone with OCD, on the other hand, will find this thought impossible to dismiss, and it becomes an obsession. Their mind starts racing: “Why did I think that? Does that mean that I’m actually attracted to kids? What if I am? Can I ever trust myself?The “what ifs” continue to flood in, causing them to doubt their own identity, values, and even memory. 

When obsessions are triggered—perhaps by a movie, a walk in the park, a physical sensation, or nothing at all—they bring intense feelings of distress, worry, and anxiety. As a result, people resort to compulsions, which are physical or mental behaviors done in an attempt to feel better or more secure, or to prevent something from happening. In our example, a person might avoid all media involving children, check for signs of arousal every time they see a young person, or research frantically in forums to reassure themselves that they’re not a pedophile.

Left untreated, OCD symptoms can be debilitating, render people housebound, and increase their risk of developing other mental health problems. OCD will grow over time—people don’t “outgrow” it. Sadly, the more taboo a sufferer’s obsessions are, the less likely they are to be diagnosed with OCD and treated for it. This brings us back to the topic of lolicon.  

Lolicon and OCD

If you’re worried about what it might mean that you enjoy lolicon, your fears are most closely related to a particular OCD subtype called pedophilia OCD (POCD). POCD—a particularly taboo type of OCD—involves persistent, distressing, and intrusive obsessions related to pedophilic themes. Importantly, people with POCD are not actual pedophiles; these thoughts, feelings, urges, or images are ego-dystonic, meaning they oppose one’s values, intentions, and identity. 

For people with POCD, lolicon—which can vary widely and pop up in all kinds of media, especially social media—may trigger an obsession. You might respond with thoughts like “What’s the reason that I enjoy this? Does it mean anything about how I think about actual children? Am I a pedophile?” Again, these ego-dystonic thoughts are distressing, contradictory to one’s self-perception, and inconsistent with their values. 

So, it’s important to understand that these thoughts do not define someone’s character or intentions. They can be symptoms of a mental health condition and should be treated as such. Case in point: in all of the years that I’ve been treating OCD, no one has ever acted on their obsessions because the thought of doing so is absolutely horrific. If they genuinely were pedophiles or murderers, their thoughts about having inappropriate contact with minors or stabbing an acquaintance wouldn’t produce the sort of anxiety, extreme distress, and rampant doubt that’s central to the OCD experience. 

Fictional characters and real-life concerns

One of the complexities surrounding lolicon is the blurred line between fictional characters and the real-world context. In cosplay and anime art communities, enthusiasts often bring characters to life, blurring the distinction between fantasy and reality. There are all sorts of widespread conversations about exaggerated or unrealistic art styles, the relationship between kinks or fetishes and real life, and even the relevance of story or lore to the ways certain characters are depicted. 

All of these questions can be triggering experiences for people dealing with ego-dystonic thoughts and distressing doubts about themselves. It’s vital to recognize that indulging in these fantasies does not signify criminal intent, even when confronted with real people embodying fictional characters, such as cosplayers.

That said, addressing the potential legal implications of lolicon is important. In some places, possessing or distributing explicit material involving even fictional minors may be considered illegal. Even though the characters are not real, some legal systems consider the creation, possession, or distribution of such material to be harmful or exploitative. So outside of the context of mental health, if lolicon or shotacon is something you like to engage with in any way, it’s worth looking into laws where you live. 

In discussing lolicon, it’s imperative to challenge stigmas and misconceptions surrounding mental health. Seeking help for such concerns is not indicative of character flaws, but rather a testament to one’s courage and commitment to one’s own well-being. And if you think you may benefit from seeking help, please know that effective, empathetic care is available.

How obsessions and compulsions about loli can be treated

Exposure and Response Prevention therapy (ERP) is a cornerstone of treating OCD and related disorders. It involves gradually confronting feared situations, sensations, thoughts, objects, or media (exposures) while refraining from performing compulsions for relief (response prevention). The goal is to desensitize people to their fears and break the cycle of avoidance and compulsive rituals. For instance, if someone has a fear of germs, ERP might involve touching a doorknob and refraining from washing their hands immediately afterward. This process helps rewire the brain’s response to triggers, promoting resilience and reducing the urge to engage in compulsions. 

When addressing lolicon-triggered obsessions, ERP can be a powerful tool. Exposures might gradually progress from innocuous images to more explicit content within a therapeutic context. Attending events like anime conventions can offer exposure opportunities, allowing people to confront situations that trigger fear or anxiety around enjoying lolicon in a controlled environment. Eventually, the goal might involve being able to freely watch the shows you love, fully prepared for the anxious “what ifs” that might occur. 

The discourse surrounding lolicon and ego-dystonic thoughts necessitates a nuanced and compassionate approach. Understanding the distinction between fantasy, desire, and action is crucial. Through ERP and open conversations with a trained specialist, you can learn to navigate this complex terrain. Remember, seeking help is a brave step towards reclaiming control over your mental well-being and life in general. 

Where to find specialized help

If you think you might have OCD and are interested in learning how it’s treated with ERP, I strongly encourage you to learn more about NOCD’s evidence-based, accessible approach to treating all forms of OCD, even highly taboo ones.

As an OCD specialist with particular expertise in kink, sexuality, and fantasy, I know from personal experience that extreme distress over intrusive worries like yours is very treatable—and that the right therapy approach can make a life-changing difference, helping you live with confidence in your values.

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