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Does Anxiety Cause Arousal?

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Leeron Hoory

If you’ve ever tried not to think about something, you probably know how difficult it is to control your own thoughts—especially when they’re embarrassing or inappropriate. Maybe you find yourself thinking a stranger in class is attractive, even though you’re in a committed relationship and have no intention of being unfaithful. Then, before you can help it, you experience physical arousal at the thought. You feel like a bad person. Making matters worse, you’re in public. Is there something wrong with you?

First of all, what you’re experiencing is very common. Sure, it can feel unsettling when unwanted physical arousal goes against your true values. But arousal is not always a sign of what you believe or even desire, nor does it indicate how you will act in the future. If you have OCD, however, the experience of unwanted arousal can send you down a spiral of obsessions and compulsions. 

This can be particularly alarming for people with OCD subtypes that fixate on unwanted sexual interest or behavior, like pedophilia OCD or sexual orientation OCD. For someone with OCD, intrusive thoughts about their physical arousal can compound until it feels like their fears take on a life of their own. 

The person may become consumed with finding concrete evidence that they are “innocent,” but view their arousal as proof they are “guilty.” They may think, “I just became aroused thinking about an under-age high school girlfriend. What else could it mean, other than that I’m a pedophile?” 

OCD, Anxiety and Arousal: Here’s the Truth

OCD fixates and latches on to uncertainty. In the search for evidence, any physical response can be used as proof—both for or against your deepest concerns. No topic is off-limits for OCD, from pedophilia to sexual orientation to harming yourself or someone else. OCD attacks what you value the most and can make you question your character and who you are as a human being. This can make the feared scenarios scarier and more anxiety-provoking—especially when they’re already taboo.

But it’s a losing battle to fixate on physical—or more specifically, groinal—responses as evidence your worst fears may be coming true. It’s just another way your OCD traps you. 

“You’ll never be able to tell the difference between actual arousal and the groinal syndrome, except that one of them is fueled by anxiety,” OCD advocate Chrissie Hodges shares with people who are dealing with this. 

ERP Therapy Is a Safe Space to Discuss Taboos

People who experience arousal as a response to their unwanted intrusive thoughts are often embarrassed to share this experience with anyone, including a mental health professional. They may worry, “What if I tell my therapist and he says this means I actually am a pedophile?” They may be convinced they are the only one with this response, and if they share their fears, their therapist will judge them, or even worse, report them to authorities. 

It’s important to remember that a trained therapist who specializes in OCD will be familiar with all the various ways OCD can take hold of someone’s life, including groinal responses and an ongoing obsession with what they might mean. Exposure and response prevention (ERP) therapy, the gold standard for treating OCD, is a safe space to work toward OCD recovery without concern of judgment. In the right therapy setting, there’s no need to  fear that your intrusive thoughts imply anything about you as a person. 

During treatment, you’ll work to accept the groinal responses you may experience as a result of intrusive thoughts. Maybe you can’t stop asking yourself, “Are erections part of OCD or are they not?” “Does this mean I’m gay, or does it not?” Instead of trying to answer these questions, you’ll work to become familiar with the uncertainty. Of course, this is an uncomfortable process, and your first impulse may be to ask your therapist for reassurance that you’re not guilty of anything. But when you have OCD, reassurance can often function as a compulsion.

In fact, if you’re reading this and seeking reassurance that your groinal response is not a cause for alarm, then it’s important to remember that the best way to recover from OCD is to become OK with uncertainty. This is a large part of what patients work on in ERP therapy. 

Where to Get Help for OCD

Given the nature of taboo obsessions and compulsions, it’s important to seek help from a mental health professional who specializes in OCD and ERP. This way, you’ll be able to work through your OCD without fear of being judged or misdiagnosed. 

The good news is that ERP therapy has been found to be very effective for people with OCD. If you’re interested in learning more, you can schedule a free 15-minute call today and speak with a member of NOCD’s care team. They’ll be able to match you with a therapist who’s right for you. All NOCD therapists specialize in OCD and receive training in ERP therapy. 

Leeron Hoory

Leeron Hoory is a writer based in New York City focusing on health, culture and politics. Her work has appeared in Quartz, the Village Voice, Gothamist, and Salon, among others. 

April Kilduff, MA, LCPC

April Kilduff is a NOCD therapist who has exclusively treated OCD and anxiety disorders, as well as their intersection with the Autism spectrum, for over a decade. Her path to this career started with her own journey dealing with panic attacks, perfectionism and a couple phobias. When not working on exposures with members, you can find her at home reading books and hanging out with her two cats or out taking pictures and traveling the world.

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Taylor Newendorp

Taylor Newendorp

Network Clinical Training Director

I started as a therapist over 14 years ago, working in different mental health environments. Many people with OCD that weren't being treated for it crossed my path and weren't getting better. I decided that I wanted to help people with OCD, so I became an OCD therapist, and eventually, a clinical supervisor. I treated people using Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) and saw people get better day in and day out. I continue to use ERP because nothing is more effective in treating OCD.

Madina Alam

Madina Alam

Director of Therapist Engagement

When I started treating OCD, I quickly realized how much this type of work means to me because I had to learn how to be okay with discomfort and uncertainty myself. I’ve been practicing as a licensed therapist since 2016. My graduate work is in mental health counseling, and I use Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy because it’s the gold standard of OCD treatment.

Andrew Moeller

Andrew Moeller

Licensed Therapy, LMHC

I've been a licensed counselor since 2013, having run my private practice with a steady influx of OCD cases for several years. Out of all the approaches to OCD treatment that I've used, I find Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy to be the most effective. ERP goes beyond other methods and tackles the problem head-on. By using ERP in our sessions, you can look forward to better days ahead.

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